Couples often come to therapy knowing what they argue about but feeling less clear about why the same dynamic keeps taking over.

One partner may pursue while the other withdraws. Attempts to feel understood can turn into criticism or defensiveness. Past hurts may enter present disagreements, and conversations about intimacy, family, money, or the future can begin carrying much more meaning than the topic itself.

In my work, we’ll slow these interactions down and pay attention to what each of you is experiencing beneath the conflict.

The goal is to understand the relationship you’ve created together and develop new ways of communicating, repairing, and connecting.